Chapter 14: Forgiveness
When you are on the so-called path of enlightenment, you want to do good for the universe as well as yourself. Then someone mentions forgiveness as though it was something you could do easily, or often. That one word has stopped more people in their tracks than many others, especially when you think this must be part of this new golden pathway to a better life, a better you.
You walk around wondering how you can find it inside yourself to forgive someone that has tormented you over maybe many years of your youth, or even adult life. Yet, this is something you must figure out in order to move ahead.
How can people pass this word about so easily?
Have they had such a simple life where no one has caused them undue amounts of emotional pain?
Do these people come from a place you have not known, where nothing touches them so deeply they think the pain suffered will never go away?
Or, is it that you come from a different planet where horrors happen all year ‘round and not just at Halloween?
In general terms, we all have extreme situations in our lives that help to form the person staring back at you when you look into an actual mirror. Even the supposed golden people have things happen that seem quite difficult to them. It may not seem so in your personal world, but in their life, it’s a tough situation.
Years back I had a bully. Inside, I knew that for me to move forward I had to forgive him. Night after night I pictured him surrounded by white light while telling my inward emotions that I was doing the right thing.
It doesn’t need to be difficult, forgiveness I mean. It’s like changing directions while driving your car. Yes, it can be that easy. You allow the person to be who they are, and you leave all the resentment behind. You can only be responsible for your-self, and your actions. Yelling, or screaming might be a good release when faced with these situations, but, you cannot expect another person to change. All these outside experiences allow us to become the person we are. Remember, I feel we are in school while here on Earth.
What you ultimately come to realize is, when you forgive others, you are forgiving yourself, and surrounding yourself with white light. Fully grasp this and the experience becomes liberating. It is calming and burden lifting all at once.
Even when the person you are forgiving is a nasty piece of work, it becomes about you and your need to move out of a negative frame of mind into a positive place.
By sending out white light, you create more positive energy not only for the person you are intending it for, but for yourself, and anyone else in its’ path. This kind of positivity is catching. While living in that white light you get to realize how maybe you attracted negativity into your energy field, but are now ready to release it back into the universe because you’ve outgrown it. Living in that white light energy feels good, cleansing, uplifting even.
Now, when you feel judgement rolling in your direction, see if you can’t let it go because it no longer suits the you, you have become.
It can be a simple moment that passes. Like when someone who is in authority tells you that you have just done something wrong, like parking in front of an entrance. Feeling a bit embarrassed, you look about and think you parked beyond the door, and if the check-out line had been attended by more than one person you would not have been there but a minute anyway.
When you come face-to-face with these kinds of simple moments, know they have chosen you as self-defining.
Maybe you get indignant. Perhaps you verbally strike back in defense. Or, maybe you choose to simply give way to that person and acknowledge what they said, apologize and walk away.
Back in your car you feel judgement from them, and send it back psychologically. Catching that moment, letting the energy go, and vowing to not let it affect you personally, you continue on your way in a much more positive energetic way.
Like a duck, you are letting the negative energy of the moment run down your back. You forgive the person, you forgive yourself, you forgive the moment and say it will NOT ruin your day.
This may seem like an over simplification of what forgiveness is, but it can be that easy if you break it down properly.
Black and white fascinator hat could be a wedding fascinator, has a great uplift of feathers for moments when something simple is just not enough! The dogwood florals have a holiday appeal without limiting you to that season. Any veil gives you an illusion of mystery. When you are living in white light energy, you are uplifted, alluring, and filled to overflow with holiday-like appeal.
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